Music

Unwind Rewind 94 Silver Linings…

Hi friends… In this program we explore sad songs that make us happy… We discover silver linings… We thank Albert Bourla from Pfizer for the quick return to normal post Corona life in Israel… Finally we allow ourselves to just be present, feel and see the beauty in the smallest of things… What a wonderful world…

‘And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make’  The Beatles

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Cat Stevens  Sad Lisa
America Lonely People
Steely Dan Dirty Work
Alabama Shakes Always Alright
Black Pumas Eleanor Rigby
Paul McCartney, Linda McCartney Uncle Albert, Admiral Halsey
Stephen Bishop On and on
Tracy Chapman Fast Car
Rodriguez I Wonder
Sam Cooke Wonderful World
James Morrison Wonderful World
Israel Kamakawiwo’ole Somewhere Over The Rainbow/ What A Wonderful World
Idan Raichel Kotsim (Thorns)
Eva Cassidy Wonderful World (Live)
Queen Love of my life (Live)
Crosby, Stills & Nash In My Life (Live)
The Beatles End

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Unwind Rewind 93 This is us (continued)

This Unwind Rewind is inspired by the theme and music of the TV-show ‘This is us’. We revisit the songs and emotions that accompany us through all stages of our lifetime. How our childhood shapes our personalities and defines our later choices in work, relationships and life. So let’s create those special memories and traditions together… cherish them forever.

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Ringo StarrPhotograph
Bread Everything I own
Jackson C. FrankBlues run the game
Gillian WelchThe way it will be
Warren ZevonKeep me in your heart
John MartynDon’t think twice it’s alright
The Teskey BrothersCrying shame
The WhoTommy Can you hear me
The VerveBitter Sweet Symphony
Noga ErezYou so done
Billie EilishEverything I wanted
Anthony Hamilton & Elana BoyntonFreedom
Pharrell WilliamsFreedom
Marcelo CameloLiberdade
CartolaPreciso me encontrar
The Gypsy KingsLove & Liberte

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Unwind Rewind 92 Pfizer, pfun, escapfism & pfreedom

Pfizer is making Israel feel like a post Corona country… With a good dose of escapism… Back to work and back to fun…

1Elton JohnThe One
2Jessie Ware Say you love me
3Stealers WheelStuck in the middle with you
4Sheryl CrowAll I wanna do
5Sam SmithI’m not the only one
6David BrozaMitachat lashamaim (Under the sky) (Live)
7Noa & Solis QuartetEye in the sky (Live)
8Donny HathawayYou’ve got a friend (Live)
9James TaylorOnly one (Live)
10B.B. KingHappy Birthday Blues
11Ray CharlesHit the road Jack
12Fiona AppleNever is a promise
13George MichaelFreedom
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Music

Unwind Rewind 91 Sign of the times

Today we start with a Leonard Cohen song that is 50 years old… To then discover some more contemporary jewels… We see how artists get inspired by the generation before and how they elaborate music into the sounds of their own… We go back and forth in time just like sampled songs do… Then to a few covers that will blow you away. We end with sign of the times as all the music we hear now is a representation of this era we live in…

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1Leonard Cohen  Avalanche 
2Michael Kiwanuka Cold Little Heart 
3Lianne La Havas Courage
4Nick Mulvey Unconditional 
5Jon BatisteCRY
6Bruno Mars, Anderson .Paak, Silk Sonic Leave The Door Open 
7Teddy Pendergrass Close the Door
8Bootsy Collins I’d Rather Be With You 
9Mark Ronson feat. Ghostface Killah, Nate Dogg, Trife, Saigon Ooh Wee
10Edith PiafLa Foule
11Cory Hanson Angeles
12Jerry Douglas feat. Mumford & Sons, Paul Simon The Boxer
13Antony & The Johnsons Knockin’ On Heaven’s Door 
14Billie Eilish Something
15Harry StylesSign of the times
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Unwind Rewind 89 Who’s gonna stand up?

Hi friends, Welcome to Unwind Rewind on IDC International Radio or on any other platform you found me and wherever you are in this world…I’m glad we are together today for an hour about speaking our truth, expressing our voice… Engaging and standing up for our beliefs… Also to express some anger… The oppositions between vaccinated and unvaccinated people and its link to upcoming elections in Israel… The impact on our children and the educational system… Political opinions and personal preferences without judging or changing our feelings and respect for the others… All of this musically accompanied by songs of protests, of change, of justice… And as always to end with Friendship, Awareness, Connection and Love… Shalom, Marilyn

1Crosby, Stills & NashTeach Your Children
2Graham NashPrison song
3Beyonce & Jay-ZBonnie & Clyde
4Serge GainsbourgBonnie & Clyde
5Neil YoungWho’s Gonna Stand Up
6theAngelcyThe Revolution
7Van William feat. First Aid KitRevolution
8Tracy ChapmanTalkin’ Bout a Revolution
9Jim CroceI Got a Name
1010 Years AfterI’d Love To Change The World
11Tamir GrinbergI was made to love her
12Joe CockerThe Letter (Live) 
13Bill WithersFriend Of Mine (Live)
14De GrungblaversOh Wa Nen Dag (Oh Happy Day)(Live)
15Jean Bosco SafariMillion Sounds Of Love
16George HarrisonGive Me Love (Give Me Peace On Earth) 
17Freddie MercuryTime Waits For No One 
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Unwind Rewind The Joy of Astrology

Today we are inspired by astrology… with special guest Joy Lerner we discuss the major lessons of our zodiac signs… We discuss the effects of the elements (Fire Water Air Earth) on our personalities… Our life choices based on our birth chart (the place and exact time we were born) like my own (Gemini)… The meaning of every day… The big 3: Sun Moon Ascendant… How planets go retrograde… And we end with a short overview of 2020 and what’s ahead for 2021….

You can contact Joylerner55@gmail.com if you’d like a personal reading…

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1Diana Ross & The SupremesNo Matter What Sign You Are
2The HolliesThe Air That I Breathe
3Doobie BrothersBlack Water
4AIR (feat. Beth Hirsch)All I Need
5Bob DylanBlowin’ In The Wind
6Jamie LidellAnother Day
7The Alan Parsons ProjectGemini
8The 5th DimensionAquarius/Let The Sunshine In
9Ray LaMontagneTill The Sun Turns Black
10TrainDrops of Jupiter
11M. WardStars of Leo
12Stevie WonderAnother star
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Music

Unwind Rewind 87 Healing is feeling

Healing doesn’t mean arriving at a place where you feel happy all the time. Healing means arriving at a place where you no longer judge your emotions and therefore you no longer resist them. Self mothering anchors you with the inner resources confidence and compassion to turn toward your emotions and feel safe to express them‘ Shaelyn Cataldo

Leonard CohenCome Healing
Tom OdellHeal
John Lee Hooker & Carlos SantanaThe Healer
Buddy Miles & Carlos SantanaThem Changes (Live)
Blue BlotDance to the Blunk (Live)
MagnusSummer’s here 
Adi MadanesCherdat Netisha
Eva CassidyWho knows where the time goes
Jose GonzalezEl invento
The AngelcyCetacean Stranding
Noam KleinsteinSong for Yuval
Aimee MannSave me
JJ CaleMagnolia
Michael JacksonHeal the world

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Unwind Rewind 86 Comfort Zone

After another lockdown and so much time at home we enjoy the ease of our family comfort zone… And of Netflix & comfort food… We hibernate, we recalculate and plant our seeds for the next season…

1LindisfarneWinter Song
2Elton JohnCountry Comfort
3John MayerComfortable
4Erlend Øye & La ComitivaQuarantime
5Sonny & CherI got you babe
6Lee HazlewoodHome (I’m home)
7The Swinging SuitsGreenback Boogie
8The StrokesIs this it
9Eric ClaptonWonderful tonight
10Pink FloydComfortably numb
11DotanNumb
12Cristopher CrossArthur’s theme
13Xavier RuddComfortable in my skin
14Bob MarleyThree little birds
15Chris StapletonStarting Over
16Pokey LafargeLucky sometimes
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Unwind Rewind 85 De(com)pressing December

As we look back on 2020, we decompress from the year we had…. The optimism of the vaccine amidst the pan(dem)ic bring us to 2021 and our intentions for the new year…

1Elton JohnThe greatest discovery
2The Brother BrothersMary Ann
3Paul SimonSlip slidin’away
4Arkadi DuchinCheder Misheli
5Keren AnnNot going anywhere
6James BayLet it go
7Gabriel RiosLet it go
8RosaliaMalamente
9ManaBendita tu luz (En Vivo)
10Leonard CohenFamous Blue Raincoat (Live)
11Roberta FlackHey, that’s no way to say goodbye
12Arik SinaiErev Mul Hagilad
13Joe DassinL’ete indien
14Daniel GuichardVieillir Ensemble
15Phoebe BridgersIf we make it through December
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Motherhood

I’m a mom of three…

Reflections on Motherhood pt. 3

Hi. Now that I’m a mom of three, I took my time to share this post. As I wrote posts for my first and second child too (click links to read) I owe you. So in short: I enjoyed three months of our ‘old life’ with my newborn – a third amazing fast and natural birth, a great Brit Milah celebration, family visits from around the world, dining out, concerts, spa treats (yes with days young baby) and many other things that since March became ‘our old life’ and are on hold until further notice…

October 2019 – 30 weeks

So let’s go back to the beginning: a third pregnancy. If you ask me if a boy’s pregnancy is different from a girl I’d say yes; but I’m not sure if that is the reason for an ‘easier’ pregnancy. Maybe I was in a better ‘place’ and maybe it didn’t leave me much time to think about it. So no, I did not enjoy pregnancy, ever. I just let it pass step by step, semester by semester, with a lack of appetite for anything and only gaining 7 kilos. It’s long and there are no shortcuts. The whole 9 months, everyone kept complimenting me how good and skinny I looked, but who cares? I’m the opposite of many moms: I gain weight AFTER birth when I start breastfeeding and regain my taste of food and life…

My 3rd child Raphael was born on December 12th 2019 in what I consider the fastest birth. Both my girls were born naturally at week 38; therefore I assumed this one would clearly be the same. Everything was planned and calculated for a 38-week-pregnancy. Family from overseas came even earlier, all my plans for home and the girls were set. But then baby Raphael reminded us of a first major life lesson: let go of control, the baby knows when is the right time! I became so impatient others kept asking ‘any news? Et aloooors?’ In the last week of my pregnancy I did various attempts and tricks to induce birth. Now I’d like to advise you trust the timing of the babies: THEY KNOW. It was a Tuesday evening at my house with my family; I was having contractions but not more or less than the last few weeks. Around midnight everyone fell asleep and my parents and brother walked to their nearby apartment (approximate 9 minute walk) leaving their phones on as they did for the last month. One hour later the fast forward button hit me and all at once: very strong contractions, an immense pressure on the lower back and the only thing I could say: He’s coming out. I quickly woke up my man and called my parents apartment telling to come NOW. At 1:15AM I called my parents apartment AGAIN saying COME NOW COME FAST; RUN. I realized we wouldn’t make it with the car and we started calling MDA. We both started dialing numbers it took us a few before the right one: 101 (See screenshot below I even dialed 911 LOL). At 1:17AM we called the right number for Magen David Adom. Raphael was born in the hospital birth room at 1:50AM. That is exactly 33 minutes since our phone call. They came super fast: 2 motorcycles and 2 ambulances – I guess it was quiet and they were excited to get a birth. My mom ran from her flat and of course panicked when she saw the ambulances! She saw me briefly as I was in a rush 🙂 The girls were sleeping didn’t notice a thing. The ambulance drove fast with the siren and burnt all red lights (first time in an ambulance). I can tell you it those bumps are pretty uncomfortable when you are in active labour! Arriving at Ichilov hospital a few sleepy women tried to register me and ask questions. I threw my file at them and said gotta no time now. I was week 40+5. God bless Amir my love who managed to be my partner in crime/birth, schlep the bags, do the bureaucracy, AND film the whole ride (I haven’t watched that video yet). Within seconds we were up going up the elevator to be met by the midwife I knew was the right one for this birth: her looks and vibe were exactly what I needed. Beautiful, tall, smiling, blond and good serene vibes. Her name was Sheshi, she said she’ll check opening and in a push he’ll be out. I was opening 10 and she was right…

I wish I could remember the smell of a newborn baby forever. What a feeling. The most powerful moment ever. You feel like a superhero. You’ve waited all your life for this moment and especially the last 9 – even 10 – months you were counting down to this. The rest of my 36 hours at Ichilov were spent quietly and connected to my baby despite the fact that Yoldot A (the new luxurious wing) wasn’t available. Still went up there with some wine in the evening with my family and friends, felt like I crashed The Norman Hotel Lobby. I was also a remotely running a big dj production and my team of girls were updating me of the whole night by Whatsapp messages…By the morning Amir went home and a few hours later my daughters parents and brother came to meet the youngest member of our family. No need to explain the emotions and pride…. By Friday noon time I was out and by the evening we were dining at TYO in Neve Tzedek. Finally I had my appetite back, a big glass of cold white wine. I know some people and traditions refuse to take a newborn out. Well I do. I did it with my girls too. Raphael went out everyday since he was born including to a rock show 4 days later. I was on such a high of finding my body back, of having met him finally, of having had such a powerful birth. Of not being pregnant anymore.

Thanks to my brother we had great photos and graphics. And my dream was a brunch at The Norman with my family, friends and work colleagues. It was so hard to wait and not be able to plan, but the minute he was born we were on it. It was the perfect celebration and I’m glad I listened to moms advice: to separate the actual Brit Milah from the celebration. We did a small intimate family gathering at our house with the mohel. I cried a lot. The baby was fine and then we walked to The Norman Hotel and had a great festive brunch, and I had a lot of bread pudding. Baby slept through the whole thing and I couldn’t show off his bow tie and ‘schleykes’…

A third child is like what I was used to hear from others. Lovey Dovey. The first three months were pure bliss. He completed us but at the same time the girls weren’t too disturbed by his arrival. We prepared them well by using the usual tricks: lots of talking, a baby gift to/from him, involving them in his life yet maintaining their routine and attention. I got my girls a personalized Peppa Pig Christmas book as baby was due around Hanukkah. In the early months it’s easier, babies eat and sleep mostly so he was with me, on me and the girls loved caring for a baby brother without feeling their mom or dad were less available and nothing in their routine changed. The Japanese Spa in Jaffa was a true treat and amazing birth gift as Raphael came with me and enjoyed every second…

But then came March, Purim and Covid19 invaded Israel too. Overnight my work ceased – yes I was working during my ‘maternity leave’ on upcoming shows that sadly never happened. And as he turned three months, he had his first fever. A third baby with two older siblings in daycare in winter would of course create viruses other new babies wouldn’t be exposed to. But this one was scary because we were just catapulted into our first lockdown. And god bless my amazing friend and pediatrician Dr. Herman who is always there to evaluate and comfort. You never get used to a sick baby. God bless the inventor of the suppository – I looked it up and it’s as ancient as the Greek and Romans – when my baby has the highest fever I’ve seen I just cry and worry, seeing your baby suffer is just unbearable and one never gets used to it. At least now I don’t fear the suppository anymore. A short praise for breastfeeding again. I would never judge you if you don’t but I’ll always encourage you to try. For short and long term benefits, for bonding aspects. I believe what I read when breastmilk adapts to the baby’s needs: more fluids, more antibodies to fight diseases and I believe they regain their power faster. I also see how they start eating solids with more force as their sucking reflex is very developed. Another thing I praise and again, doesn’t mean it works for all of us is co-sleeping: I never felt tired with this baby (remember the concept of breastsleeping for both mother & child). From day one, Raphael slept on me, then later next to me and a year later he still refuses his bed. I don’t mind, I breastfeed in my sleep and I wake up fresh every morning. We always end up all together in bed. I remember a parent with teenagers once telling me how his kids don’t want him to enter their room so for me it’s clear: let’s cuddle and co-sleep as much as we can as long as they let us….

A few words on our months in lockdown mode: I consider my kids to be in the ‘ok’ age for a pandemic meaning we have it relatively easy. Let me explain: first lockdown was easy as baby was just 3 months young and we created a great routine at home together focused on the essentials: food, home and us. Second lockdown was a bit more challenging as Raphael was already crawling, eating food and touching everything (needless to mention the amount of danger with two older siblings i.e Barbie shoes, beads etc. That’s when I finally took that online CPR Class) By the way, why do babies always want to play with dangerous objects instead of their own toys? What does this say about the consumer society we live in? I’ll refer to my first post on motherhood: false needs created by society…

As much as I miss my work and live shows, timing was fine for managing three kids. Instead of being the show production team we became the home production team – multitasking as in handling the house the garden the kitchen and keep the kids fed, alive and happy. I hope we can all see the silver lining of this pandemic. See what it’s teaching us: to connect to the here & now with our families. The joy of basic and simple family time. To be able to just play with the kids despite laundry, mess or other home chores. As a mom with a radio show called Unwind Rewind I wish I could tell you I master the art of just being. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t. I feel so blessed and grateful when I see my girls get along so great and play for hours with each other in their own imaginative and creative world. They are two years apart and so different (maybe that is the secret to such a fun and complementing connection?). Maybe the parents deserve some credit here too. They started as lovers, then became a couple and now a family (and a production team). When man and woman team up and can complete each other kindly; they can see the fruit of their labour in their children.

So yes lockdowns had their ups and downs and triggered some deep rooted issues to be solved and that’s where the holy me time comes in. Not to be defined in time or space but essential to any mother-woman. I always had trouble hearing parents complaining how hard it is. Yes there are challenges and your me time is often compromised but I repeat: as long as our kids are healthy and happy nothing should be defined HARD. I know one of the secrets to our parental success may be our age:. I had more than enough time before to do all of that – traveling, social, personal and any other achievements. No FOMO Yes JOMO. Being a mother to Nellie, Noa & Raphael is the greatest gift I could ever get and the light & love they bring goes beyond my imagination. Every day I love them more than yesterday but less than tomorrow. Whoever knows me knows I wasn’t really into kids before having my own. So when it gets a little intense, just take a deep breath; before you know they’re all asleep and you’ll be looking at their photos before crashing (and canceling all those other things you intended to do: Netflix, bath, dishes, read, knit etc)

Every baby phase has its perks and its challenges in the first year. I cry over many moments that pass and will not return. Oh please, if I may give you a tip: write things down! Look at their huge baby books on the photo: weekly notes during pregnancy, drawings, souvenirs, little anecdotes, achievements etc. So how to conclude? Only you know which parent you are or want to become. Listen to your gut and follow the cues of your child(ren) instead of trying to control the situation at all times. The children know and they teach us if we connect to them. The key to successful (or conscious or mindfulness) parenting is to be present; be in the here & now with them. And yes, there is a big difference between your approach towards your first second and third child. First you can tell by the dirt and the amount of stuff in your stroller. The biggest challenge is to balance the guilt of sharing – or let’s say juggle – the attention between all kiddos. And not only to the one who screams the most or the loudest.